Caring for Families Caught in Domestic Abuse

Written by an experienced team of biblical counselors, Caring for Families Caught in Domestic editor Chris Moles and contributors Darby Strickland, Joy Forrest, Greg Wilson, Kirsten Christianson, and Beth Broom are all leaders in biblical domestic abuse ministry in the local church. Each chapter of the book provides a detailed overview of how to minister biblically and faithfully to both the abusers and the abused.

Topics addressed include the biblical and theological foundations for counseling each family member impacted by domestic abuse, direction on how to counsel the victims (spouse and children) and the abuser, and how to offer practical, actionable help to protect families from harm.

• A field manual for pastors and counselors in domestic violence prevention, intervention, and education.
• Common tactics of domestic abuse and a biblical response are
• Key resource for the conservative evangelical church to understand and respond to this widespread problem.

The Heart of Domestic Abuse

Domestic abuse and violence are on the rise in our culture today, and just as prevalent in the church. With an estimated one-fourth of women in the church living with abuse and violence, pastors and biblical counselors need to have the resources to offer hope and help. It is time for godly men in the church to call abusive men to repentance and accountability. Here is a valuable resource for every church leader and Christian man.

37 Ways to be Taken Captive

Choose your adventure. If you are ready to surrender your personhood for the sake of someone else, this book will increase your chances of being taken captive. Many singles, believing they’re in a normal relationship, are taken off guard by public humiliation, verbal jabs, mind games, neglect, violence, and silence. They don’t know how to respond or they blame it on themselves. Overlooking the warning signs listed here will increase your potential for captivity.

If you’d prefer a healthy, balanced relationship, the remaining chapters provide diagrams, practical and biblical principles to help you identify and enjoy God’s good gift of fellowship and companionship.

37 Ways is written for single men, women, and those who love them.

When Home Hurts

This book is intended to equip pastors, church leaders and church members to respond with the heart of God to situations of domestic abuse that occur in their local church. Prioritising the safety of the victim at all times, Jeremy Pierre and Greg Wilson seek to help you be the kind of church leader, church member, friend, parent, sibling, or neighbor who responds wisely. We want the church to be a new normal for those grown accustomed to abuse. A home that doesn’t hurt those inside, but instead welcomes them into the tender care of the Lord.

Is it Abuse? A Biblical Guide to Identifying Domestic Abuse and Helping Victims

This book is intended to equip pastors, church leaders and church members to respond with the heart of God to situations of domestic abuse that occur in their local church. Prioritising the safety of the victim at all times, Jeremy Pierre and Greg Wilson seek to help you be the kind of church leader, church member, friend, parent, sibling, or neighbor who responds wisely. We want the church to be a new normal for those grown accustomed to abuse. A home that doesn’t hurt those inside, but instead welcomes them into the tender care of the Lord.

Sanctuary: Hope and Help for Victims of Domestic Abuse

Oppressed, hurting women continue to look for help and safety, but there is a disconnection between their need and provision. Women are seeking help. Church leaders, many of whom are volunteers, want to help. Individuals are concerned. Why, then, are women failing to find help in local churches? What prevents our churches from effectively helping women who are abused by their husbands? The missing piece is an understanding of domestic abuse and how to apply the good news of Jesus, His Word and character to what has remained unseen, unknown, and misunderstood.

Untwisting Scriptures

Have you found that you can’t read the Bible without being sent back into a painful place? Have the scriptures been twisted to keep you in bondage?

The real Jesus wants to set you free.

In Untwisting Scriptures: Patriarchy and Authority, Book 2, Rebecca Davis addresses the hold that “patriarchal” parents have had over their adult children in the name of “children obey your parents” or “rebellion is the sin like witchcraft”.

She also addresses the harm religious leaders have done as they hold “obey your leaders and submit to their authority” over the heads of those they manipulate and control.

A toxic faith needs to be deconstructed and rebuilt on the solid foundation of the true Lord Jesus Christ. Untwisting Scriptures does this by faithfully examining word meaning, context, and the heart of God for his people. This audiobook will untwist and present the beautiful truth of God’s Word, exposing sin where it needs to be revealed, and offering hope to those who desperately need it.

Scriptures can be untwisted. You can walk away from the spiritual abuse of patriarchy and cult-like authority without leaving the real Jesus. In fact, you may just find a God you never knew.

Behind the Veil: Exposing the Evil of Domestic Oppression and Providing Hope (Refining the Conversation)

Domestic oppression…what is that? Did you know that domestic oppression is the seedbed for every other form of abuse that takes place within families and churches? And did you know that the quantity of people who suffer under domestic oppression within the church is staggering in its pervasiveness? In Behind the Veil, pastor and biblical counselor Warren Lamb, PhD, pulls back the veil on an evil that has been too long misunderstood and overlooked in Christian circles. Pastor Lamb draws on his thirty-plus years of specialized counseling experience with oppression and abuse survivors to train and equip the church—both leaders and laypersons—to effectively partner with Jesus Christ to “proclaim release to the captives…and to set free those who are oppressed.” (Luke 4:18b)

Suffering and the Heart of God: How Trauma Destroys and Christ Restores

When someone suffers through trauma, can healing happen? And, if yes, how does it happen? Dr. Diane Langberg tackles these complex and difficult questions with the insights she has gained through more than 40 years of counseling those whose lives have been destroyed by trauma and abuse. Her answer carefully explained in Suffering and the Heart of God is Yes, what trauma destroys, Jesus can and does restore.

But it’s not a fast process, instead much patience is required from family, friends, and counselors as they wisely and respectfully help victims unpack their traumatic suffering through talking, tears, and time. And it’s not a process that can be separated from the work of God in both a counselor and counselee. Dr. Langberg calls all of those who wish to help sufferers to model Jesus’ sacrificial love and care in how they listen, love, and guide.

The heart of God is revealed to sufferers as they grow to understand the cross of Jesus Christ and how their God came to this earth and experienced such severe suffering that he too is well-acquainted with grief. The cross of Jesus Christ is the lens that transforms and redeems traumatic suffering and its aftermath, not only for the sufferer, but it also transforms those who walk with the suffering.

Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men

He says he loves you. So…why does he do that? You’ve asked yourself this question again and again. Now you have the chance to see inside the minds of angry and controlling men—and to change your life. In this groundbreaking book, a counselor who specializes in working with abusive men shows you how to improve, survive, or leave an abusive relationship. You will learn about:

The early warning signs
Ten abusive personality types
The role of drugs and alcohol
What you can fix, and what you can’t
How to get out of a relationship safely

The Gift of Fear: Survival Signals that Protect us from Violence

A special edition of The Gift of Fear, with a new foreword by the author.

A stranger in a deserted parking lot offers to help carry a woman’s groceries. Is he a good Samaritan, or is he after something else? A fired employee says “You’ll be sorry”. Will he return with a gun? After their first date, a man tells a woman it is their “destiny” to be married. What will he do when she won’t see him again? A mother has an uneasy feeling about the nice babysitter she’s just hired. Should she not go to work today?

These days, no one in America feels immune to violence. But now, in this extraordinary, groundbreaking book, the nation’s leading expert on predicting violent behavior unlocks the puzzle of human violence and shows that, like every creature on earth, we have within us the ability to predict the harm others might do us and get out of its way. Contrary to popular myth, human violence almost always has a discernible motive and is preceded by clear warning signs.

Through dozens of compelling examples from his own career, Gavin de Becker teaches us how to read the signs, using our most basic but often most discounted survival skill – our intuition. The Gift of Fear is a remarkable, unique combination of practical guidance on leading a safer life and profound insight into human behavior.